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Why you can not force the child to eat up


From the very first days of her baby, every mother dreams of how she will feed her baby delicious cutlets and pies. When the feeding period begins, a global problem appears - how to feed the child. Not every child will sit and calmly eat all the food that he is offered. That is why parents have to go to very tricky tricks in order for the baby to eat everything to the last bite with pleasure.

The kid does not want to eat: how to solve the problem

There are many tricks that help to outwit the child and make him quietly eat everything that is served to him. The main rule of feeding is not to make an entertainment show out of the process. Many parents begin to give their children toys, tell tales and sing songs. The baby in this case will completely relax and will in the future associate eating as something fun and active.

In order for the child to eat well, it is necessary:

  1. Show the baby that eating is a separate ritual during which all family members sit at the table, each with their own devices.
  2. Explain that the one who got up from the table ate. After that, his plate is removed. This prevents the constant running back and forth.
  3. If the child begins to act up, they do not hold him at the table.
  4. Prohibit snacks: no sandwiches, cookies, sweets between main meals.
  5. Do not force-feed - the child will ask for food when he is hungry.

Tricks for Naughty Toddler Parents

There are other tricks that can help solve the problem of refusing food. It is necessary to make the baby interested in the process. Some tips many parents have tried:

  1. You can promise the baby something interesting as a reward. It can be watching a cartoon, buying a toy, and even that sweetie - the child will want to quickly get what he wants and eat everything without a trace!
  2. Plates should be beautifully designed. It is desirable with any pattern on the bottom. Then you can intrigue the child in this way. Ask what is painted there. The kid will be interested, and he will eat all the porridge or soup in order to get to the cherished bottom.
  3. Food must be laid out beautifully on a plate. Even ordinary semolina porridge, decorated in the form of a sun or a pretty face, will bring unprecedented joy to the child. You can decorate beautifully a sandwich, and buckwheat porridge, rice, mashed potatoes, vegetables and fruits. On sale there are curly pasta - cars, letters, asterisks and flowers. You can even cut the usual carrots for soup beautifully. It will be much nicer for the baby to eat such food.
  4. The child can be explained that food is required in order to grow large. You can mention your favorite cartoon character or, for example, dad. Each kid will want to become as big and strong as his idol.
  5. Another way to make a child eat is to outwit. Cook one thing, and serve as a completely different one. When the child understands that the plate does not actually have melted ice cream, but semolina, you just need to say that he did not try it. The kid will continue to try and eat absolutely everything!

Parents should remember that forcing a child to eat when he is capricious is simply useless. It is much better to take advantage of the fraudulent maneuvers described above and maintain a good mood for yourself and your baby. Then sharing breakfast, lunch and dinner will be only a joy!

Argument 1: adults cannot appreciate a child’s sense of fullness

The nutritional behavior of any person is regulated by the hypothalamus - a section of the diencephalon. When a person’s blood is saturated enough with glucose, amino acids and other substances, certain physiological processes occur in the hypothalamus, and a person feels a sense of “fullness”. An adult cannot evaluate when a child has such a condition. Shoving extra food into a well-fed child, adults try to wedge themselves into the normal physiological processes of the child’s body.

Get out of the "clean plates" society. Children stop eating when they are full, so they learn to hear their body and its signals about satiety.

pediatrician, candidate of medical sciences Ruzanna Avanesyan

And regular feeding of a well-fed child can lead to obesity and the development of type II diabetes.

Regular overeating can lead your child to food addiction and obesity.

Argument 2: food may become associated with negative emotions in a child

Very often, in order for a child to finish eating, parents resort to various illegal means:

  • threats: if you don’t get soup, I’ll put it in a corner, if you don’t get porridge, you go to bed earlier
  • blackmail: you will not eat everything that I have prepared - you will not go for a walk, you will not watch cartoons,
  • speculation on feelings: I tried and cooked, but you don’t want to eat it.

Such methods of exposure cause negative emotions in children:

If this situation arises day after day, then the child’s food begins to be associated with these negative emotions. He will not only not eat up, but unconsciously will begin to eat slowly, reluctantly, come up with excuses, and in the end he can hate the food and begin to perceive it in a hostile way.

If you constantly force the child to eat up, then eating as such may begin to cause psychological and physical disgust in him

At an older age, this phenomenon can lead to serious diseases, which are based on hostility to food. For example, a child may develop anorexia - a violation of the functioning of the food center of the brain, which is manifested by a chronic lack of appetite and a person's refusal to eat.

Argument 3: do not provoke a conflict with the child

There are situations when a child refuses to eat up not because he is full, but because of a protest against a particular dish or product. For example, he wants to get something sweet at the end of the meal, and first they shove useful cereal with a sentence like “until you eat all the cereal, you won’t get any sweet.” Of course, if the baby completely refuses porridge in this case and demands "immediately candy", then this is more of an attempt to manipulate the parents, and it is necessary to ask for a regular portion of porridge.

In this situation, do not rush into the kitchen and replace the useful product with the desired one. The menu should be discussed with the child in advance.

Games in democracy are good at the stage of making the menu (cooking). That is, it will be just great if you ask before you go to the kitchen: what kind of porridge do you want today - oatmeal, rice, buckwheat, semolina or corn? But if a coordinated rice porridge is put on the table, and it is required to be replaced with another, then a positive reaction to such a request is fundamentally wrong. Respect for human labor, gratitude to the one who put the food on the table - this is no less important than appetite.

Dr. Komarovsky

But if the child has objectively eaten porridge or soup (that is, the main dish), then insisting on eating more in this situation means strengthening the child’s protest and provoking a tantrum or conflict as a result.

Forced feeding a child can end in hysteria and conflict

Argument 4: Leave your child room for independent decisions

In some matters, children should be given freedom and the opportunity to make independent decisions. This also applies to the amount of food eaten. Excessive adult control always suppresses personality in a child. Such people, who were “obedient boys and girls”, have a very difficult time in adulthood: they lack leadership qualities and do not know how to achieve their goals. And they will pass on the same to their children.

At what age should a child be taught to eat up

It is not necessary to teach a child to eat up at any age. Let the child decide how much he needs. By teaching a child to eat up through force, you form in him the wrong eating behavior that will remain with him for life. It is better to discuss the menu with him in advance, do not put more age-related portions on the plate and take into account other circumstances that could affect the fact that the child eats less than usual today (this may be due to a recent snack, heat, illness, for example).

Do not offer the child portions that are large for him, it is better to eat fractionally, but optimal portions, on average, the portion of the finished dish is the volume of the fist

Forcing children to eat up is a stupid occupation. During such manipulations, you harm not only the child, but also yourself, as you waste your nerves.

Vegetables in your favorite dishes

It is not necessary to feed the child vegetables as independent products. If you add them to any other dish, their benefits will not decrease.

For this experiment, you should choose only the food that the baby loves. Vegetables should be cut into small pieces and mixed with the main dish, or you can prepare a vegetable sauce, which will also be very useful.

But your child should not see that mom puts some new ingredients in his plate, because this can alert him and he will refuse the offered food.

Saturate the taste and pleasant aroma

Many mothers manage to feed their child vegetables with a little trick.

It is no secret that the taste of vegetables is rather fresh and that is why the child refuses them. Therefore, you can alternate them with some more saturated product. For example, first give the baby a spoonful of carrots, and then a spoonful of cauliflower. At that moment, when the child will chew the cabbage, the taste of carrots will still be felt. It is not difficult, but the result is the place to be.

The perfect presentation of the finished dish

It is very important that the child develops an interest in the cooked dish, then he will gladly agree to try it and even eat it whole. To do this, you need to learn how to beautifully arrange food. Of course, this will take some time, but the child will start the meal with great enthusiasm.

On the Internet you can find a huge number of options for decorating absolutely any dish, even a banal sandwich. When your baby is interested in food, he will not even notice how he ate everything that his mother put on a plate.

Explain what vegetables are

It would be nice to introduce the child to vegetables, because when he does not know what lies in front of him, he may simply be afraid to try it. Therefore, the story begins with where and how these fruits grow, why they are so useful, why young children need to eat them. Such a story can greatly captivate the child and at least for the sake of interest he will taste the vegetables.

Offer vegetables when your baby is hungry

It is useless to offer the baby vegetables when he is already full enough - this attempt will not succeed. It is best to give your child vegetables when he is really hungry. Then, most likely, he will not refuse them. For example, after a tiring and long walk, try to offer him wholesome food, he is unlikely to be able to refuse.

Exciting game

The game approach is very important for children. With its help, you can not only feed them vegetables, but also teach them to clean up toys and participate in developmental activities. Some children like to feed their parents, why not offer the child to feed mom and dad, and then he will most likely agree to try a couple of spoons himself.

Encourage your child to grow vegetables

Any child will be interested to know how vegetables grow, so if you can, you can plant a few grains together in the country, on the balcony or in a pot on the windowsill. You should instruct the baby to take care of the sprouts, and then, as soon as the vegetables ripen, the child will gladly run to pick and eat them, because this is the result of his labors.

Personal example of parents

It is very important to set the right example for your child. When parents eat sausages at the dinner table, and they put vegetables on the baby’s plate, he will definitely refuse them, because he will see that parents eat completely different food, so you need to set the right example.

And one more thing: there are a lot of vegetables, so it’s quite possible to find exactly those that the child will like and give them to him as often as possible, just be patient and everything will work out.

1. Proper sleep

It is believed that sleep problems are the prerogative of adults. In fact, in children sleep problems are noted at a fairly tender age. Sometimes - through the fault of parents. It is no secret that mothers and fathers often adjust their baby’s sleep schedule to their own regimen. At first glance, this is convenient - the child goes to bed at the same time with his parents at the weekend (for example, at one in the morning) and wakes up at the same time as they are closer to dinner. Even if the child sleeps the number of hours set for him, this is wrong. Children need to get up and go to bed at a specific time — on weekdays and weekends. Sleep disorders are fraught with impaired cognitive abilities, the immune system and various malfunctions in the body. Studies show that even a single lack of sleep reduces the level of lymphocytes responsible for antitumor immunity by 70%.

2. Good nutrition

Are you worried that your child lacks vitamins? This is not the only problem! Today, most children suffer from a lack of fiber, a deficiency of which leads to constipation, hemorrhoids and stones in the gall bladder. Children under 5 years of age require 19 g of fiber per day, from 5 to 8 years - 25 g. Fiber is not only vegetables and fruits (although it is found in sufficient quantities in fruits), but also bran and various seeds.

Protein - the main building material of the body - should come not only in sufficient quantities, but also on time. Therefore, in spite of the unconditional value of breast milk, it is better not to delay it with complementary foods. The child should receive meat, fish, egg white in strict accordance with age.

Sugar and fast carbohydrates should be limited. All parents know this. Keep in mind that WHO has long equated fruit juices to carbonated drinks. Therefore, they have no place on the children's table.

But you can’t force a child to eat in any case. After the baby gets used to using a spoon, parents should not control the amount of food eaten. Especially - to feed, for example, a three-year-old child to the accompaniment of cartoons or reading books. Thus, the connection between the brain and the body is disrupted. This is fraught with the fact that the baby ceases to understand whether he is hungry or full. In the future, this can lead to overeating.

Appetite can change daily depending on the energy spent. If the child does not want to eat, let him not eat. Lost catch up on the next meal. But not earlier - there should not be any snacks and bitterness.

4. Minimizing stress

Today, the requirements for children have increased many times. Parents seek to load their children from the cradle in full - as a result, the kids wander from one section to another, which naturally leads to overwork and chronic stress.And stress causes hormonal changes that lead to a decrease in immunity, metabolic disorders and other problems. Do not be afraid that the child will get bored. Boredom is a fairly productive state that allows you to "reboot" - that is, analyze what is happening.

5. Timely vaccination

Vaccination is one of the main inventions of medicine that saves millions of lives every year, the only method to eradicate dangerous infections and avoid infectious diseases. Vaccinations use the most advanced system to fight infections - the child’s own immunity.

I always advise parents to simultaneously vaccinate against several diseases. Clinical guidelines in developed countries allow the administration of almost all vaccines at the same time (with rare exceptions, most often not included in the standard calendar). For example, the US guidelines recommend that a patient who does not have enough vaccinations by age and has no contraindications to do all of these vaccinations simultaneously in full. American doctors give 8-9 injections at a time. Simultaneous vaccination protects the child better, minimizes stress, allows you to finish the vaccination earlier (and not spoil the baby’s relationship with doctors). And most importantly, it reduces the number of undesirable reactions. Studies show that the number of vaccinations given simultaneously does not practically affect the likelihood of a reaction. That is, if we do 10 vaccinations at the same time, then the risk that the reaction develops is one-time. And if we take 1 vaccine for 10 visits, then we can expect the development of the reaction 10 times.

As for reactions to vaccinations, I personally over the years all the years of work, doing up to 40 vaccinations daily, saw only one moderately severe. And she was not 100% related to the vaccine.