Lungs' cancer

Stress is the main cause of cancer


Experts treat such experiences with understanding. And yet they warn: do not give in to despondency! Having learned the terrible truth and having experienced the first shock, it is important to be able to choose LIFE.

Our consultant is psychologist Maria Belykh.

Having received a confirmed diagnosis of a serious disease, a person in one form or another goes through five stages of making a diagnosis. Hundreds of unanswered questions swarm through my head. The future is overhanging a black cloud. After all, the worst thing is the unknown. Psychologists say: this is a completely normal reaction. In such a situation, it is natural and even necessary to go through a certain period of grief, to mourn the changes that have occurred in fate. The main thing is not to get stuck in any of these stages.

Stage One. Shock and / or denial

Having received a confirmed diagnosis of a serious illness, the person experiences a state of shock during the first hours or even days. He lives and acts "on the machine" and can look completely calm and healthy.

Following the shock, panic comes, a person begins to rush about in the literal and figurative sense. To defend itself, the psyche develops a “reflex of denial”: the patient does not believe in his diagnosis, often tries to lead an ordinary life, avoiding any reminders of the disease. Such a short-term state of denial is a natural defensive reaction, however, if a person stays in this state for too long, then, firstly, he experiences great stress, and secondly, puts his life at great risk, as he does not go to the doctor and does not care about your health. At the same time, relatives may be completely ignorant: often they are either hidden from the diagnosis, or they do not know the whole truth. Therefore, at this stage, a person can feel very lonely, even isolated from the world, alone with his fear.

How to cope. Engage in self-education, collecting complete information about your ailment. From acquaintance with a disease, one should gradually move on to acquaintance with patients - that is, with people suffering from the same disease. As the observations of doctors at the Moscow Center for Multiple Sclerosis show, even the usual benevolent communication between patients increases the effectiveness of treatment and the quality of life.

Stage Two. Anger

As soon as a person goes through the first stage, he begins to face reality and realizes that a serious illness is now part of his life. And often he begins to feel anger - at God, at himself, that he was doing something wrong, at doctors who cannot cure him, at others - for ignorance and misunderstanding. And because they ... are still healthy.

And although anger is a normal reaction of the human psyche to any life crisis, when it lasts too long, the level of stress rises sharply. And often health deteriorates: after all, the emotional state is in direct connection with the physiological. It turns out that, angry, you only act on the hand of the disease. In addition, excessive anger can deprive you of possible allies - people who in the future could provide you with help and support.

How to cope. Do not “burn” the precious energy in vain. Need to be angry at the disease. No wonder the Tibetan lamas said that "you need to really hate your ailment in order to defeat it." Look for examples among famous people who fought with dignity with a similar disease, lived long and high quality and left their mark on history.

Stage Three. Deal

At this stage, a person tries to come to terms with the situation, making a kind of deal with his subconscious on the principle: if I behave myself, everything will be as it was before. Right now, the patient is ready to go to the healers, sorcerers, use unverified methods of treatment, invent his own, refusing the course prescribed by official medicine. Many turn to faith, and very quickly can reach unhealthy fanaticism. Others, despite the severity of the condition, go on a long pilgrimage. In fact, this is the desire to escape from the disease, but in fact - from oneself.

How to cope. It’s important to understand that a disease is not retribution or punishment for something, and it won’t disappear either magically or miraculously, or in any other way, that your specific disease is just one of dozens of chronic diseases, that millions people live with your ailment like your whole life.

In this case, do not forbid yourself anything. I like to go to the healer - go, just inform your doctor about this. Visits to temples and shrines also have a beneficial effect on the psyche of patients. It should only be remembered that sick people cannot be fasted (no, not just strict!) And can not remain at the service through force, when the knees bend and darken in the eyes.

And better - find a CASE in which you can achieve success and recognition, which will captivate you for real. It is enough to recall the experience of Daria Dontsova, who began to write her detective stories in a hospital bed and managed not only to defeat a serious illness, but also become famous.

Stage Four. Depression

When reality is finally realized, almost all patients experience some degree of depression. There remain huge unresolved questions about plans for the future, about relationships with others, about changing status in the family and at work. The need for continuous treatment often radically changes the usual way of life, starting with the daily routine. At this stage, many people just want to get under their covers under the covers and hide from the whole world.

How to cope. First of all, you need to understand that this is a temporary period. A sense of hopelessness and gloomy pictures of the future are chimeras, which are essentially nothing more than symptoms of depression. After experiencing it, you will see your life in a completely different way. The diagnosis is not a reason to abandon plans and hopes. Moreover, for each serious illness, new treatment methods are constantly being developed that help to maintain legal capacity for a long time. However, there are diseases that provoke depression at the biochemical level. In this case, you need to seek help from a psychiatrist who will prescribe antidepressant treatment for you.

Stage Five. Acceptance and revaluation

Accepting and reconciling is not the same thing. Acceptance means that a person has come to understand that he can live with his ailment, that the patient has developed clear positive goals and aspirations, the implementation of which even the disease can not prevent. At this stage, the time comes to re-evaluate your life, your plans and goals. Often, only after making a difficult diagnosis, people understand what is really important and valuable for them, what it takes to spend time and energy on, focus on what is most important for themselves and refuse unnecessary.

To the attention of relatives and friends

► After receiving news of a severe diagnosis of a person, it is better not to leave alone.

► Use any thread to tie the patient to life: try to show him something new, interesting.

► If the patient has thoughts of suicide, immediately contact the centers of psychological assistance!

► Do not place an adult in the position of a helpless infant. Underscores

In words and actions, give the patient strength and confidence in the fight against the disease. Do not allow tearfully pitiful intonations in communication with him. Decide on a choice: either you support it and help fight the disease, or step aside.

Personal opinion

Lyudmila Lyadova:

- You can never lose heart. Who constantly aching, will always be sick. The spleen is a terrible thing, it must not be allowed under any circumstances, otherwise a man turns into a "spleen", and a woman - into a "spleen". And if a person is seriously diagnosed, will and majority are especially important.