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Why am I always thinking about my ex-boyfriend?

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Do you know a situation where obsessive thoughts about the same person haunted all day? You wake up and already think about it, you walk along the street and think, go to bed and think. You constantly scroll through the dialogues with him in your head, enter into new ones, argue, try to convince him of something. And so day after day, it doesn’t matter if you saw each other yesterday or a year ago. And here the main question arises: "Is it I who thinks of him, or does he think of me?"

What is a thought?

The fact that thought is material, many already know. Smart people say, "Think before you say." And wise people strongly advise think before you think.

A thought (thought-image, thought-form) is a clot of psychic energy containing information. Having a certain frequency of vibrations, it can take the form, dimensions, have color, smell.

The question of how thoughts arise has been of interest to many scientists for a long time. In the mid-19th century, the German physiologist Büchner believed that the brain produces thought like liver bile. By the end of the 19th century, the opinion had changed; scientists came to the conclusion that no one can say how the brain generates thoughts. This opinion is shared by today's psychology, adding that the psychic does not live in the brain, it projects onto the outside world.

Thinking of someone, we create a mental image, project it into the outside world and send it to the addressee. The thought-image, carrying a certain energy charge, invades the recipient's energy body (aura). If a person thinks about someone for a long time, a communication channel is formed between him and the addressee through which energy is exchanged.

If this is a relationship of two loving people, then there is a uniform redistribution of energies. For example, a woman nourishes a man with her internal energy, and a man compensates her for the expended energy with material goods. No wonder they say that behind every successful man there is a loving woman.

But if the relationship is one-sided or based on feelings of resentment, anger, guilt and so on, then your psychic energy, the most valuable resource on Earth, is lost. If you think that the most valuable resource is oil :), you are mistaken, it is psychic energy that is the basis of the materialization of any things and only a person possesses it. Sometimes a person does not even control how he spends this priceless gift. Various addictions, such as smoking, alcohol, gambling, painful attachment to another person, membership in egregors, are all based on energy metabolism.

Protection from obsessive thoughts

What methods did I not use to escape from obsessive thoughts: I meditated - imagined letting him go, asking me not to come, mentally covering myself with colorful caps, trying to create an obstacle in the way of his thought forms, trying to stop the flow of thoughts with my willpower.

Do you think this helped? No matter how.

In the end, I came to the conclusion that the best temporary protection against obsessive thoughts is not to resist them. I simply allowed my thoughts to come, but the main thing is not to enter into dialogue with them. Then they, like clouds in the sky, will begin to swim by. Undoubtedly, this technique also requires concentration, but energy costs are much less than a relentless “conversation” with a mental image or conscious resistance to obsessive thoughts.

Intelligent work also helps remarkably, in which case the brain switches to another task, and obsessive thoughts cease to bother for a while.

Unfortunately, these are only temporary techniques, and if you seriously decide to deal with obsessive thoughts, then you need to "go inside yourself," as Anatoly Nekrasov would say. If someone steals your energy, then you are allowed to do it. It may be karmic relationships in which you could not fully understand, and the image of the partner continues to haunt you, or relationships colored by feelings of resentment, the desire to remake another, anger that everything is not the way I want, or you use obsessive thoughts, as a departure from real life circumstances. In any case, the reason is in you, and until you consciously control your psychic energy, you are someone's energy donor, and your life will be spent on other people's successes and accomplishments.

P.S.
But, just in case, I would ask the Stars by asking a horary question.
Maybe your friend has long been secretly in love with you. So he thinks about the subject of his passion day and night. Well, what a demand from a man in love! Even the psychiatrists don’t treat the diagnosis of love, they wave their hands and say: “It will pass by itself”. 🙂

Why horary question - One of the most proven and ancient ways to understand love relationships can be read here, and how to ask a horary question correctly we read here.

Let your beloved man think of you all day and night!

Gunar Tatyana Yuryevna

Psychologist Moscow Was online: 19 days ago

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You unconsciously become attached to the person who rejects you. This sounds paradoxical, but our unconscious can behave "contrary" to our consciousness, if at one time in childhood, in parent-child relationships, there were contradictions, puzzles that were not resolved were not clarified. Perhaps one of your parents broadcast you coldness and rejection, and at the same time you knew that you were loved. And now the rejection of you is irresistibly drawn to you. This is only one version, there can be many, and no one except you knows them yet. It is good to solve such puzzles in psychoanalysis, come, work, I will be glad to help you) -Love from the first vzg.

Gunar Tatyana Yuryevna, psychologist, psychoanalyst in Moscow

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Grishin Vladimir Olegovich

Good afternoon, Christina,

Everything is quite simple - you, not ending one relationship, are trying to build others. This does not happen.

Relationships begin, develop and end in our head, within us. You yourself came up with the Ideal Image of a partner for yourself, you yourself built in your head the image of an ideal future with your ex-young man. You even came up with an image of yourself, that other that he might like. As long as you inside yourself think that you MAY BE well with him in the future, yours, it is your relationship with him that continues.

All this lives within you. If you want to stop thinking about it, end this relationship within yourself. You can do this in only one way - to admit that you don’t like the future with such a person, you don’t want such a future for yourself, you don’t want the next 40-50 years to be with you not a reliable, windy and infantile person who the same applies to you coldly and rudely.

If you feel that you can’t do it yourself, then I’m ready to help you, please contact in a personal consultation mode.

Regards,

Grishin Vladimir, psychologist

psychotherapist in Moscow, individual and family consultations

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Louise Mikeyeva

Psychologist, Systemic constellator. Specialist from the site b17.ru

well, if you think about beaten gates, believe me, he thinks you vryatli)

Oh, author, I also thought about this! It seems to me that you really have some kind of mental connection with him, you seem to be thinking about each other synchronously. I believe in it.

2, a psychic self-taught friend told me that it’s just not synchronous. And that when I think, he doesn’t need to think about me, because I am so filling him with energy.

Do you want a renewed relationship with him?

2, a psychic self-taught friend told me that it’s just not synchronous. And that when I think, he doesn’t need to think about me, because I am so filling him with energy.

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No, it is not. It shows only your obsession with this person. It will pass as soon as you meet another cute guy. Just give the opportunity to the other, do not go in cycles in the past! If you are still with the wrong guy from the past, then you don’t need to, understand? Throw it out of your head as soon as possible and live a full life!

I will describe a case of telepathy. We have not seen each other for three years. In one public place, I saw a girl and a guy meeting by chance. It was evident that she liked him before, but for years they did not communicate like us. I saw her eyes and realized that she loved him unconditionally. I don’t know why, I saw myself in it. Instead of them I introduced myself and him and the conversation was equally pacifying) And then I forgot about it. A year later, I was with the company in a very beautiful place, in a nature reserve. It was an unearthly beauty, and I still felt so subtly, because I didn’t eat meat for six months) I saw myself happy with his eyes (suddenly remembered) And I thought that he would be glad to see me absolutely happy, not dependent on him. Ten days later, I met him in the very public place where I introduced myself then. We talked very nicely, but not for long, and he and I were in a hurry. And I'm glad that we were in a hurry, otherwise I would have already started to blunt. But while talking, I had the thought that this is the first and incredible evidence of the materialization of thought in my life.

Do you want a renewed relationship with him?

No, it is not. It shows only your obsession with this person. It will pass as soon as you meet another cute guy. Just give the opportunity to the other, do not go in cycles in the past! If you are still with the wrong guy from the past, then you don’t need to, understand? Throw it out of your head as soon as possible and live a full life!

You idealize it! And he is the most ordinary! Rather, throw it out of your head! And also thoughts about the fact that you are far from him! I’m saying - it will pass from you! In youth, we are much more impressed than in adulthood.

I also can not help but think about one guy. every day I think of him. Already samoy already tired of these thoughts! but I can not do anything with them ((

Author, I have the same thing. I have been so connected with one person for 7 years, I clearly know when he thinks about me. I used to think that I was thinking about him. Then she was convinced that we were mentally connected. As soon as I get a strange feeling of longing, he contacts me, writes or calls. But the relationship doesn’t go any further, there are certain problems

just believe that you will be with him and that's it. how much your thoughts are strong, so much faster and you will be with him

he can think about you if your feelings are mutual

Author, I have the same thing. I have been so connected with one person for 7 years, I clearly know when he thinks about me. I used to think that I was thinking about him. Then she was convinced that we were mentally connected. As soon as I get a strange feeling of longing, he contacts me, writes or calls. But the relationship doesn’t go any further, there are certain problems

Hi, I have the same problem when I was 18 years old, we met, we are like a brother and sister, it turns out to be second cousins, my grandparents were relatives, I considered him and treated like an older brother, but it turns out he looked at me like the girl, and so it all started, one might say, his kiss, first, I still remember when I close my eyes, even in my soul I feel hotly and anxiously, so when I parted I was worried about it, I left for the capital, not I thought about him, after some time I met a very good man, I thought h oh love, I’m ready to do everything for him, gave birth to his daughter, she’s 2.5 now, we live well, he loves me again, but here again thoughts about that other D, recently started dreaming, I inadvertently think about him, honestly from I’m tired of these thoughts about him, I called him and said that you’re dreaming of me, and he says “I don’t know!”, such as “maybe mom is worried that I still haven’t married” (he dreamed about me as if he were in bed, and his mother asks him, "why didn’t you tell me about your relationship then, I would come up with something"), the more that day he told me nothing the hall, they just recalled those moments when they were together, and that's all, a month later, somewhere after that, I dream about him again, and he writes to me that he has some problems, then I realized that I dream about him when he has some problems , or some kind of joy in our souls, we corresponded, I told him about it, and he told me, “I know when I feel bad and whether it’s very good, then I dream about you,” so I can’t understand what our paths are for then they crossed, gave us feelings, and still do not let go, I don’t know, I think maybe you need to see me so that we can finish everything, n I’m afraid, now even when I write, everything is burning in my heart, some chills, and after I parted, I saw him once, shakes him from head to toe, even when I’m texting, HELP, ALL WANTS TO CALL IT, WRITE, but I restrain myself, I AM AFRAID I DON'T LAST. WAITING FOR YOUR ADVICE,

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